Stay Angry, Stay Happy

The title sounds a bit of a paradox. Don't worry. You read it right. If you wanna be happy, you gotta be angry first. Confused? Sure you are! Most of the writings out there tell you how happiness lies in letting go of anger and hatred, adopting peace and harmony, and spreading the word of love. You've always heard of hatred and anger being vices, being the tools of the devil himself. Of how we can make the world a better place by simply being tolerant, having good associations with people no matter what, and using positive visualisations to transform your thinking, and hence transform your life. Love has often been talked of as powerful force within us, which can suppress all the negativity within, and enhance the quality of life to a much higher level.

So why this message of anger and hatred? What might possibly be the role of anger in one's happiness? Well, first of all, there is no denying the role that love and positivity can play in one's happiness and well-being. Love is no doubt the most beautiful forces of life, which can be inculcated and harnessed, to achieve great things. I, myself, am all for love. But the main problem lies, in the fact that, its not always, that all of us are successful in follwing the path of love. It sure is easy to love, but is it easy to love all the time? We are not saints, for it is but human to err. At times we do get angry and it is a part of human nature. So in the name of of love, do we just ignore all that anger?

There are moments in your everyday life, when you do get angry. Everything around you is pissing you off, one time or the other. Its inevitable. Not everything can be perfect. Not everyone can be perfect. People usually have two choices; one, they let out their frustration and anger on other people around them. This can be a destroying attitude, for it can lead to problems at home, at the workplace, with your friends, and you might turn into a loner or some damn psycho. The second is that you let that anger out of your body, either by calming down and using anger management techniques, or through meditation. This would require you to spend some time learning those techniques, and practice them regularly, so that you may master them, and hence master your thoughts and your mind. Needless to say, thats a lot of hard work, and the lazy bums that technology and lifestyle has made us, not everyone's gonna put in that much of effort.

There is another way out. When it comes to anger, be the selfish pig who always uses things and situations, to work his way out. Use the anger. Preserve that anger. Be a little pissed-off. Let the anger drive you ahead in life, motivate you. It takes a lot of energy to be angry in the first place. You are not gonna waste it, are you? Why not save all those little bits of hatred, and focus those elsewhere? Bruce Lee did that, when he was beaten up at the age of 16 by local hoodlums. He didn't swear revenge, or take an oath to destroy the world. He channelized his anger to learn martial arts. And look what that made him into. Thats also what Gandhi did in South Africa, and later in India. I'm sure he was pissed inside with all the apartheid and injustice. He didn't use violence to release all that pent-up anger. He chose the peaceful assertive way out. Sure, he had his demands met, and all the time, it was this anger that drove him to his purpose of a free nation.

So what do we learn folks? Being angry is good. It can help you achieve great tasks. You just need to learn not to waste it away in meaningless bickering and fighting. Instead, channelize that pissed-off attitude into something construcive. Something good for yourself. Something that can improve lives of you and the people around you. Do the good thing, the bad way. Coz bad is the new good. It'll increase your satisfaction levels. It'll make you smile in adversity. It'll make you laugh when you are angry.

 

So find reasons to be a little pissed-off on everything that is wrong. You are not alone. We're all a little fucked up inside. The more you are screwed, the more are your chances to unleash your potential and achieve greatness. So what's wrong? Your boyfriend left you for that hot supermodel? Well screw him! The asshole didn't deserve you anyways. Its time to do the things you always wanted to do, but never got the time coz you were busy hanging out with him. What else? A drunk guy just puked on your brand new shoes? Perfect! Go ahead and work a little harder to complete that project before deadline. You are gonna buy a new pair off the bonus. Who's next? You don't like all that garbage being dumped near your building? Call a society meeting to take a firm action on this issue. Take the initiative, and be prepared to go all the way. And why are you so fucked up? Your father beat you up when you were a child? Shit happens! Remind yourself about that, anytime that you are doing something wrong, or even if you are feeeling outright lazy. The key is, to stay pissed off. To stay angry. In the long run, what you make out of it is gonna make you happy. You dont need a therapist. Or a psychologist.  Or a self-help book to "heal your spirit". You just need to know how to work things your way. Stay strong. Stay angry. And stay happy.